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Hello Ear Kandy listeners. I won’t say who I am but I am 25 years old and I’ll get straight to the point. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We have 2 kids together and I have one from a previous relationship as well. My boyfriend is really a good dude deep down, but he is so controlling and demanding. When we 1st got together, he was really good to my daughter, but at the same time he didn’t try to step on her dad’s toes because he is somewhat still in the picture. About two and a half years into the relationship (about the time I had my 1st son by him) he started being really shady towards my daughter. He would always buy our son stuff and schedule outings for just us (me, him and our son). I rode along with it at 1st you know thinking he was just happy this is his 1st kid, but by the time I got pregnant with our 2nd son, he would literally tell me that he didn’t want my daughter coming with us, or he would get mad if he felt that I was spending too much time with my daughter. He was constantly comparing the way I treated her to the way I treated our sons. It got to the point where my daughter starting feeling the tension and always asked to go over my parent’s house. I tried to justify it because she has her own room over there and they really love her, my daughter is always so happy there. But I’m just over it! My boyfriend won’t really even let our sons stay over my parent’s house without us being there too. Like he thinks his kids are too good to be around MY DAUGHTER or something. I do understand him not wanting to step on my other baby dad’s toes.. but this is just not fair. Currently my daughter is living with my parents and I just recently heard she has been telling our family that I love her brothers more than I love her. My heart is torn because my boyfriend is a good dad, so if I leave him, my boys suffer. IDK just feels like a lose lose situation. I really need some advice. Please help?